Whether it's the number of people we've bedded or certain types of sexual experimentation we're certain our partners would disapprove of or judge us harshly on, I feel everyone withholds information about their sexual past from current partners.
Of course, how many of our current romantic partners truly want a complete run down of our sexual histories? Let's face it ... most of us have had dozens of partners. Some of us have even crossed into triple digits. Now, when I say sexual partners I mean jobs of all kind ... blow jobs, hand jobs, fucking, sucking, rimming, pussy-eating, strap-on using, threesomes, foursomes, group sex, voyeurism, hand-cuffs, whips and chains, neck-ties, belts, and every other adult kink act one can think of.
But let me branch off. In this modern age, defining a partner by the number of sexual partners and/or activities they've participated in prior to the current relationship is barbaric. Personally, I've never considered a partner with a vast sexual history someone to be ashamed of. Quite frankly, I respect any adult honest enough to hold their head up high when it comes to their sexual past.
I never understood the parochial value of saving one's self until marriage (or a marriage-equivalent). It's so fucking wretched, to be honest. At the risk of sounding harsh, I personally would not want to bed a virgin at this point in my life. If you are a virgin, and you marry someone who is not a virgin, do you really think they're going to enjoy that wedding night? Yeah, they will enjoy fucking your tight ass (or pussy, if that's the case) and popping your Cherry Darling, but the blow job your perform will be without technique and probably full of teeth. And when they're fucking you, you probably won't have much in the way of rhythm and skill.
I'm not knocking virgins. I'm just saying ... why are you waiting? Have sex already!
Back to my point, though ... I do not understand why people are so offended when they find out their partner has had a prior sexual experience that was vast, to say the least. If you weren't acting like such a prude bitch they would have probably told you about it.
Now, I will admit I've not always been so honest in my romantic history. I've had boyfriends in my past where I held certain things back. I've never outright lied about a sex act I've participated in. If they asked, I told. I just never volunteered. In my current relationship, however, I've been very blunt about my sexual history. It was very important to me to do that in the beginning. Information has a way of bubbling its way to the surface - I've learned from shitty experience - so I felt it was best to just lay my sexual past out there.
But does this kill romance? Not at all! In fact, your sex life will be a lot more rewarding if you show off all your skills.
Now I'll admit, I used to feel guilty rolling through my twenties, racking up sex partners left and right. But at thirty-two, very happy in my relationship with my beautiful boyfriend, I find myself proud of my sexual past.
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